Showing posts with label hair loss music. Show all posts
Showing posts with label hair loss music. Show all posts
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Forever and Ever, Amen
Come on...everyone knows this one. But just in case, I figured I'd better publish the trilogy from the blog post. Introducing Randy Travis, my friends...this one is a classic.
I Am Not My Hair Video
India Arie on YouTube: I Am Not My Hair with Akon, inspired by Melissa Etheridge's 2005 Grammy appearance
Daytrotter Download: The Way I Am
Daytrotter has a free download of Ingrid Michaelson's The Way I Am. You have to register, though, with your email address and year of birth (of all things). Once you register, you can hit play or download. Still catchy, I must admit.
Take Me the Way I Am
There aren’t a lot of songs about hair loss. So last summer when I heard “Rogaine” in a breathy, singsongy voice on the radio, I went on high alert. I held my breath in anticipation of learning the artist name: Ingrid Michaelson.
Immediately, “The Way I Am” became my new favorite song.
The Way I Am by Ingrid Michaelson
If you were falling, then I would catch you.
You need a light, I’d find a match.
Cause I love the way you say good morning.
And you take me the way I am.
If you are chilly, here take my sweater.
Your head is aching, I’ll make it better.
Cause I love the way you call me baby.
And you take me the way I am.
I’d buy you Rogaine when you start losing all your hair.
Sew on patches to all you tear.
Cause I love you more than I could ever promise.
And you take me the way I am.
At first, I found the lyrics to “The Way I Am” sweet. You take me the way I am? Wow. We all long to find someone who will do just that – accept the good, bad and ugly in us.
The more I listened to the song, however, the more I became bothered by it.
Never mind the implication that baldness is some sort of problem with an easy fix, like a chill, or a headache, or a holey sock. Just use Rogaine, and shazam, problem solved. It’s not always that easy. There are many types of baldness, caused by different things, and treated in different ways. With my type, some people lose quarter-sized patches of hair on their scalp, while others lose all body hair. Some grow their hair back quickly, while others never get their hair back. Some people re-grow their hair with Rogaine, only to lose it again when they stop taking the treatment. I certainly tried it, years ago, before there even was a Rogaine for women. I only had a few bald spots back then, and I was desperate to have my hair back. I also tried steroid shots and an irritant cream that turned my head purple and made me want to scratch my skin off. Sometimes these treatments work on alopecia. None of them worked on me.
Then there’s the idea that balding heads are indeed a problem—something that needs to be fixed. Aren’t bald men considered sexy these days? Think Taye Diggs. Yowza! Couldn't someone facing hair loss embrace a bald head? Why should we assume that everyone automatically wants to treat hair loss?
But what really bugged me was the underlying message of acceptance paired with the “I’d buy you Rogaine” lyrics. Can you “take me the way I am” and still want to make changes? Doesn’t acceptance mean you experience something without attempting to change it?
I had to look up the definition.
From merriam-webster:
ac·cept
transitive verb
1 a: to receive willinglyb: to be able or designed to take or hold (something applied or added)
2: to give admittance or approval to
3 a: to endure without protest or reactionb: to regard as proper, normal, or inevitable c: to recognize as true :
4 a: to make a favorable response tob: to agree to undertake (a responsibility)
5: to assume an obligation to pay ; also : to take in payment
6: to receive (a legislative report) officially
Hmmm…not exactly what I’d hoped for. The only definition with any reference to change is the third one: to endure without protest or reaction.
Is a balding head something to be endured? Maybe it is.
But maybe it doesn’t have to be. Once upon a time, bald wasn't even acceptable, much less sexy. Balding men scrambled to find just the right toupee and then prayed people wouldn't notice the rug on their head. Balding women didn't exist, at least not in the public eye. People didn't embrace their baldness. They didn't own it.
But that was before Sean Connery went bald and still managed to be sexy.
That was before Michael Jordan and many other basketball players made it cool to be bald.
That was before Melissa Etheridge performed bald at the 2005 Grammy awards.
That was before Robin Roberts ditched her wig on Good Morning America last year. And then walked the runway - bald.
As long as there are confident bald people willing to set an example, there's hope for all of us.
As for Ingrid Michaelson’s song, I still find it catchy and sweet. It’s just not my idea of true acceptance anymore.
What is? How about these:
“I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am not your ex-pec-tations
no no I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am a soul that lives within”
– Singer India Arie, “I am not my hair”
“They say time takes its toll on a body
Makes a young girl’s brown hair turn gray
Well honey, I don’t care, I ain’t in love with your hair
And if it all fell out, well, I’d love you anyway.”
– Singer Randy Travis, “Forever and Ever, Amen”
What do you think? Are acceptance and change mutually exclusive?
© 2009 Christy Bailey
Immediately, “The Way I Am” became my new favorite song.
The Way I Am by Ingrid Michaelson
If you were falling, then I would catch you.
You need a light, I’d find a match.
Cause I love the way you say good morning.
And you take me the way I am.
If you are chilly, here take my sweater.
Your head is aching, I’ll make it better.
Cause I love the way you call me baby.
And you take me the way I am.
I’d buy you Rogaine when you start losing all your hair.
Sew on patches to all you tear.
Cause I love you more than I could ever promise.
And you take me the way I am.
At first, I found the lyrics to “The Way I Am” sweet. You take me the way I am? Wow. We all long to find someone who will do just that – accept the good, bad and ugly in us.
The more I listened to the song, however, the more I became bothered by it.
Never mind the implication that baldness is some sort of problem with an easy fix, like a chill, or a headache, or a holey sock. Just use Rogaine, and shazam, problem solved. It’s not always that easy. There are many types of baldness, caused by different things, and treated in different ways. With my type, some people lose quarter-sized patches of hair on their scalp, while others lose all body hair. Some grow their hair back quickly, while others never get their hair back. Some people re-grow their hair with Rogaine, only to lose it again when they stop taking the treatment. I certainly tried it, years ago, before there even was a Rogaine for women. I only had a few bald spots back then, and I was desperate to have my hair back. I also tried steroid shots and an irritant cream that turned my head purple and made me want to scratch my skin off. Sometimes these treatments work on alopecia. None of them worked on me.
Then there’s the idea that balding heads are indeed a problem—something that needs to be fixed. Aren’t bald men considered sexy these days? Think Taye Diggs. Yowza! Couldn't someone facing hair loss embrace a bald head? Why should we assume that everyone automatically wants to treat hair loss?
But what really bugged me was the underlying message of acceptance paired with the “I’d buy you Rogaine” lyrics. Can you “take me the way I am” and still want to make changes? Doesn’t acceptance mean you experience something without attempting to change it?
I had to look up the definition.
From merriam-webster:
ac·cept
transitive verb
1 a: to receive willingly
2: to give admittance or approval to
3 a: to endure without protest or reaction
4 a: to make a favorable response to
5: to assume an obligation to pay ; also : to take in payment
6: to receive (a legislative report) officially
Hmmm…not exactly what I’d hoped for. The only definition with any reference to change is the third one: to endure without protest or reaction.
Is a balding head something to be endured? Maybe it is.
But maybe it doesn’t have to be. Once upon a time, bald wasn't even acceptable, much less sexy. Balding men scrambled to find just the right toupee and then prayed people wouldn't notice the rug on their head. Balding women didn't exist, at least not in the public eye. People didn't embrace their baldness. They didn't own it.
But that was before Sean Connery went bald and still managed to be sexy.
That was before Michael Jordan and many other basketball players made it cool to be bald.
That was before Melissa Etheridge performed bald at the 2005 Grammy awards.
That was before Robin Roberts ditched her wig on Good Morning America last year. And then walked the runway - bald.
As long as there are confident bald people willing to set an example, there's hope for all of us.
As for Ingrid Michaelson’s song, I still find it catchy and sweet. It’s just not my idea of true acceptance anymore.
What is? How about these:
“I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am not your ex-pec-tations
no no I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am a soul that lives within”
– Singer India Arie, “I am not my hair”
“They say time takes its toll on a body
Makes a young girl’s brown hair turn gray
Well honey, I don’t care, I ain’t in love with your hair
And if it all fell out, well, I’d love you anyway.”
– Singer Randy Travis, “Forever and Ever, Amen”
What do you think? Are acceptance and change mutually exclusive?
© 2009 Christy Bailey
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